Category: Self Development

22
Jul

Put your Best Foot Forward…

The long and tiring admission procedure dominates aspirant’s minds as soon as they are done with their intermediate exams , which involves various life-changing decisions. A lot of pressure and huge expectations are placed on a student’s shoulders after all its that’s why we study, to make a  bright career . And the juncture that most students get caught up at is the great debate of the college versus  course.

On one hand one have a prominent, reputed college with great market value of its own, while on the other hand you have your interests, your desired course. So its definitely  a very tough call to make. With such cut throat competition one can’t simply pursue any course in any college. The decision has to be well thought of.  And before making this decision, a student should understand that a college tags for three/four years while the discipline tags throughout the career.

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22
Jul

ESCAPE

And finally, he was free, free to live his dreams and his life, Free to feel safe and finally, he was happy. He wouldn’t have to sleep with tears in eyes and scars on his soul. He would not just be an object anymore but will be an individual with an identity of his own.His breaths will not be forced and controlled but as pure as he wants. He would no more be scared of the dark. He wouldn’t be frightened by the mere thought of footsteps reaching towards him

They all talked a lot about their security, their rights, feminism, molestation blamed all men for everything happening to her. He watched it all, heard it all yet kept quiet cause if he would have opened his mouth, the world would have made fun of him and laughed. He wrote it down and shared each of his feelings with none but himself.
And finally, when they reported yet another rape case and the victim being murdered thereafter, he didn’t feel bad or dropped a tear, he didn’t feel sorry anymore, he rather smiled for the victim now, was once a molester.
He loved the idea of getting to feel what the victim made him feel years ago helpless, tortured, captivated, disastrous and above all, empty. (not just physically but mentally & emotionally). He felt glad for what happened cause this time the real victim was an HE and the monstrous molester, a SHE.

This is the era where we give priority to women empowerment, their protection, and awareness about their rights and equality amongst the society. But we, in this process forget somehow the legal ethical rights of males and their personal space and protection and place in the society. It is okay to take care of the fragile but one must not forget that there are always two sides of the coin and we must not neglect any of it.
By the story,  we tend to put forward the very idea of male bashing and their problems as well. The world is cruel and safe,  both for men and women, it is on us, how we look at it and conclude. As we live in a patriarchal society we generalize the fact that males are strong and they cannot be abused but the reality is,  they too are human beings and must be treated in the same manner. ‘

21
Jul

HOPE IS THE NEW BEGINNING

I stand here by myself strong, social, bold, and helpful to others. But a few years ago I was not at all like this as I am today. I have gone through many struggles and problems. I had a reserved nature, I was shy, timid, afraid of people as they haunted me, I didn’t talk to people because when you talk to someone, you have to fulfill their expectations and I was not at all interested in obeying the rules of expectations. Then I reached class 11th and joined hostel for a year or two. There I saw a girl who was much strong, helpful, social, bold, jolly and happy in her life. I always had a thought that how her life is so simple and easy and possibly enjoyable? She became my admiration but I didn’t have the courage to go and ask about her life but secretly craved to live a life like hers. But one day I guess God heard my prayers and she came to me by herself and talked to me about my issues. But as always I was not ready to share my experiences about my life struggles so I answered back rudely and asked her to leave, though regretted it as soon as the words left my mouth but she was the one with a big heart and a great deal of courage, came again and asked me to join her. And as I said ‘the one with big heart’ made me feel comfortable with her and taught me the right way to live life.

There I saw a girl who was much strong, helpful, social, bold, jolly and happy in her life. I always had a thought that how her life is so simple and easy and possibly enjoyable? She became my admiration but I didn’t have the courage to go and ask about her life but secretly craved to live a life like hers. But one day I guess God heard my prayers and she came to me by herself and talked to me about my issues. But as always I was not ready to share my experiences about my life struggles so I answered back rudely and asked her to leave, though regretted it as soon as the words left my mouth but she was the one with a big heart and a great deal of courage, came again and asked me to join her.

And as I said ‘the one with big heart’ made me feel comfortable with her and taught me the right way to live life. Also, she held my hand and pulled me out of my sorrows and of my life to her side, the side which I admired since the very beginning. She made me strong to face my problems by myself without any hesitation. She explained to me that everyone in this world has equal rights and freedom. Nothing is impossible in this cruel world if someone makes up their mind. Nowadays every person is free to do whatever they want to and live their life accordingly. And then she told me that gender is not an issue, everyone is judged by their talent, knowledge, and potential and also gave me a strong feeling that I can share my issues with her as she would not reveal my part of life or make fun of me.

Then I finally explained her about my house, my parents, my family issues and my issues. I told her that I am an elder sister of a younger brother but my parents wanted their first child to be a boy. I had to do almost all my household work. My parents always told me one thing that I am a girl which is why I don’t have the permission to socialize much or to have much fun or when my brother did something wrong, I had to suffer as I failed in handling him. He had the right to say anything to me but I couldn’t even raise my voice against him. I always had a feeling that girls are only for compromising and facing struggles. But she changed my mind and made me strong and became the source of light in my life.
I am glad that she happened to me and I am proud of what I am today.

Self-confidence is one thing one must possess. It is like having clothes on cause we cannot possibly go out without it and so, same is with self-confidence. Life is mysterious and sometimes brings hurdles but we must not get disappointed or discouraged by them as they are there to make us more strong and better so that we may achieve our goals easily. Inspiration is another quality to be grabbed as it is the major part that leads us to the right path and guides us to know more and continuously sharpens to shine better. No matter how hard some situations may feel, self-confidence and inspiration will always lift us up and will lead us to success.

19
Jul

Don’t Bury Your Failure, Let them Inspire you

Don’t fear yourself from failure it is next step to the ladder of success.

Many times we think that we are useless and does not find the purpose of life and our existence. We are not able to find the purpose of our life, where we exist, why we exist. And being useless we find ourselves as a failure.

For finding the purpose of your life and being organized, we need to focus on our mind and our vision. We need to understand our state of mind that what actually we are expecting from ourselves. Or I should say we need to understand the concept “why we are where we are “. Even we have to analyze our unsuccessful events without any fear to overcome it.

As we all know that every coin has two sides. Similarly, every human being has two phases of life: failure & success. We just need to maintain the balance between both of the sides.If we face failure at any moment we don’t have to be restless but we need to take it as a learning phase. Analyze your unsuccessful events without any fear to overcome it.

Analysing and understanding of failures will make you aware of your weakness and your mistakes. Awareness of your weakness will give you chance to work on it. And it will also help you to fit in the fast progressing world. Never lose the confidence just hold yourself and try to struggle hard for new achievement, because:

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01
Jul

Let’s Concentrate Little More – How to concentrate in a better way

How often do you feel that You are not able to concentrate? or your mind just wanders off to different places ?

Don’t worry ! it happens to all of us. And that’s what this article is all about. Concentration !

Concentration is the ability to focus on the task you have in your hand and say goodbye to all the distractions and diversions. It is one of the pivotal prerequisites for success.

So, how do we achieve this concentration? First and foremost, our mind makeup plays an important role. If we are under stress or not in a good mood, our attention is going to waver eventually. So it is very important that we approach any task with a fresh approach. Advancing towards our goal with enthusiasm is the real key to success. I know it seems like this is all everyone keeps telling to us, but having a positive attitude has a huge impact on our lives. Also, stress is one of the main reasons for the lack of concentration on the task which is in progress. So, indulging in regular physical exercise and meditation is also important.

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